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Monday, November 30, 2015

'Tis the Season to...Get Rowdy? What Are We Teaching Our Kids

So, here's the example we are setting for our kids...people running to the stores the day after everyone shouts out their "I'm so thankful for..." spiels, grabbing boxes out of the hands of children and acting a total fool.

Black Friday. Yes, it's a wonderful, beautiful, touching example of how people should not act in the season of "giving."

But, wait!

My 15-year-old (as of December 1, happy birthday to her!) daughter just came to me a few hours ago and asked if I had heard the news about Black Friday. Her friend in Canada had told my daughter that she wouldn't want to live in the U.S. if people were fighting in stores the day after we were supposed to "be all thankful."

Which is what inspired me to write this.

This year, people couldn't wait until the day of thanks was even over before the battle of the Christmas sales began. And it just happens to be that the most wanted gift for 2015 is....

A vegetable steamer! Or so, the rest of the world would think, listening to the U.S. top news stories, like the one about the lady who grabbed a box out of a young boy's hand at an undisclosed store.

Now, rumor has it that this particular video that went viral is a hoax, however, it's not the only story about shoppers going stupid on Black Friday. Every year, it seems, there is one brawl or another or at least shoppers grabbing boxes from each other.

Not all of them are hoaxes. This is how people act the day after Thanksgiving. About an item that they are buying during the season of giving.

This is what we are teaching our children.

I had to laugh when I read that the Daily News called it Black-eye Friday. People are even fighting in the food malls now, not necessarily even fighting over gifts.

I'm sure this makes Santa happy.

Security is urged to ramp up by the police. Black Friday is no joke anymore. The best thing we all can do is enjoy our Thanksgiving and relax the day after. Matter of fact, relax the entire weekend!

A billion less was spent Black Friday 2015 for a reason.

It's no secret: Black Friday is usually not the best deals, but rather a teaser for the sales to come. Besides, Black Friday has a much darker connotation than Cyber Monday (named after those of you who sneak and continue to shop at work after the long weekend), for example.

Don't lie, 85% of people asked said they would be shipping Cyber Monday, according to a survey by DealNews. Go ahead and pretend you are one of the 15% of the people who won't.

People ran out to spend $10.4 billion a few days ago, on Black Friday 2015, which was actually down over $1 billion as compared to last year. Makes you wonder what the outcome of Cyber Monday will be. Adobe is predicting their online sales for Cyber Monday will be over $3 billion for their company alone.

Honestly, I find this all quite outrageous. Yes, it's the season to give! But, are we merely fulfilling shopping lists and wish lists or are we actually giving? To me, there's a huge difference, and I find that we are not truly focusing on the fact that it's giving from the heart, not shopping from a list.

You will not find me shopping on Black Friday and even though you will find me online on Cyber Monday, it won't be shopping that I am doing. It's all about manufacturers making money (I'm sorry, but it's true), and we "consumers" have been falling for the trap for decades now.

But, anyway, I'll get over that.

What I can't get over is the entire concept that we're teaching our children. Because they are learning by our actions. If we're shopping on Black Friday as a tradition, that's what they are going to think they should do.

That's not teaching them to give - from the heart. Cyber Monday isn't teaching kids to give from the heart, either, although if you're sneaking at work, how are they ever going to find out. Black Friday is passing on to our children a tradition of shopping, not giving. A tradition of shopping from a list, no less.

It's truly not one of the things that I want to make a tradition in our family. My children know that mom relaxes, and quite possibly decorates for Christmas with daddy and the children while Christmas tunes are playing. Not shopping. Never shopping. I refuse to commercialize Christmas.

It's the season to spend with our loved ones. 

Memories and special moments like decorating for Christmas far bypass any gift that can be procured on Black Friday, in my opinion. Don't you agree?

Sure, the media, and quite possibly your friends, act like if you don't run out shopping on Black Friday, you will be the only one totally missing out. But, we all know that if you sit tight and spend time with your family that day, another sale will pop up before Christmas on gift must-gets.

Those hot items that were on sale on Black Friday will surely see a dip in price again before Christmas. You just have to be patient and keep a watchful eye.
I mean, they're your kids, but mine sure won't be feeling the tradition pinch when Black Friday comes around.

Black Friday has always been a family day in this house, a day to continue to be thankful. And, giving has come from the heart more than from the wallet. (Sure, the kids receive certain things that they really want for Christmas - maybe not all, but they also understand the true meaning of Christmas is giving, not receiving.)

I hope my children keep up the same traditions for their own children.

Saturday, November 28, 2015

Devil Wears Prada on North West - No Kids at Fashion Week!

The lady who the Devil Wears Prada was created after, Anna Wintour, editor-in-chief of Vogue since 1988, has made her statement about kids. I had to laugh, knowing full well how the fashion diva can be with her prim and proper English upbringing. Haven't you seen the Devil Wears Prada?

She said that children don't belong at fashion shows!

This opinion emerged after the fashion mogul sat next to Kim Kardashian at Kanye West's fashion show. While she was cordial at first, after North West threw a temper tantrum and had to be removed from her father's show, Wintour turned obviously cold.

Thursday, November 26, 2015

Twas the Night Before Thanksgiving...

And all through my house, the teens were laying around like bums, and the mice were eating the crumbs.

The littles were making a huge mess near the chimney, I swear...with hopes that the irresponsible teens would clean the mess, I declare.

Papa played music as tried to call it a wrap, because all I wanted to do was lay my head down for a long winter's nap.

{Sigh...} It truly is the eve of Thanksgiving and I have many, many things to be thankful for, but to avoid the expense of potentially seeming all mushy, I will just stick to the facts.

The children are all asleep at 11:20 p.m. #Blessing
The house is as clean as its probably going to get tonight. At least it's better than it was 2 hours ago. #Blessing

We have plenty of food for Thanksgiving. #Blessing

We have friends who love us. #Blessing

We have a roof over our heads. #Blessing

And I'm too tired to list anything else, but we are blessed.

Hope you and yours have a Happy Thanksgiving. Get stuffed like the turkeys and hopefully the kids allow you a well-deserved nap!

Wednesday, November 25, 2015

Dumbed Down Desperate Parenting

There's lazy parenting and then there's desperate parenting. Then there's dumbed down desperate parenting.

Every parent does a little lazy parenting here and there. (Don't hate.)

But, dumbed down desperate parenting...

Well, let's just say most of us have the better sense to avoid it, despite lack of sleep and sanity. Then again, there are plenty of dumbed down parents out there...leaving us somewhat sane, yet still incredibly exhausted parents shaking our heads in astonishment.

Tuesday, November 24, 2015

5 Ways to Regift the Wrong Way

If you've never received a terrible regift, you're one of the lucky ones!

With the season of giving in full force, I thought it would be more than appropriate to mention regifting.

Some of us (I won't mention names) don't seem to understand the meaning of regifting.
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